Men in relationships can and will be saturated with their own pride and ego at various points in any relationship. These attributes are nurtured throughout childhood and hardly ever disciplined within. They are subconscious powerhouses of defense and are potentially poisonous. They are the reason men are easily swayed by challenge, insult, humiliation, and their own carnal nature. If a man doesn’t mature these parts of him he will stumble and fall repeatedly.
Pride can cripple a man’s ability to listen and ego can hasten mans reasoning to anger and impulsiveness. (Philosophers and social psychologists have noted that pride is a complex secondary emotion which requires the development of a sense of self and the mastery of relevant conceptual distinctions). This generation of men build their pride on a myriad of weak social constructs not strong personal values like character and integrity and as such, they are at best shifty and unpredictable. There is a difference in having pride and being prideful.
A mans ego takes on a more complex role in his life and is extremely delicate. A mans ego is intended to regulate his instinctual desire for instant gratification. It is supposed to be the very thing that grants him the strength to be called a man however, an ego needs to be disciplined otherwise it succumbs to the passions of instinct and temptations easily. A man who is prideful and possesses a weak ego will eventually experience a fall he may or may not get up from.
This fall can best be described in a romantic relationship where he allows his inflated pride and ego run rampant throughout his relationship influencing him to give up and leave or cause him to be left. In time (Subjective to person) he could begin to experience feelings of guilt, anxiety, and repentance “realizing” that he is in error. This may cause him to attempt desperate reconciliation presumably with his most recent affair or humble new beginnings with the next.
A man must reinforce himself with integrity, discernment, and courage. He must accept accountability for his decisions and must practice patience to avoid finding himself facing the continuous consequences of his own foolishness. In the end he has to commit to a decision and be prepared to grow from it.
There are no easy routes in life and even more so when you try to blend your life with a counterpart. There are many sacrifices and hardships on the journey of love that we all must be conscious of. Allowing ourselves to be too important can and in most times will leave our counterparts in need.